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By Don Clevett, Apr 16 2013 03:05AM

Life has truly changed for the Baby Boomers. Men have had to make many adjustments to survive in this new world so that, as they enter midlife, more and different issues need to be addressed.

Male midlifers are waking up to the fact that they can have more control over their retirement which now can last for thirty years. You can now be retired as long as you worked! Now you not only have to have an organized work and family life but must also face the future demands of retirement.

Many factors such as health, finances, marriage, caregiver to aging parents, and work/volunteer options, take on a new perspective. Our mental, physical, and spiritual states make demands on us to change to meet our midlife. Again, I emphasize that midlife need not be viewed as a crisis but rather that of a midway with the ups and downs one experiences with roller coasters and Ferris wheels.

Our parents wanted greater things for us than they achieved; this may have triggered a whole new set of desires causing us to reach even further up the ladder of success. Now an entire new group of concerns have to be addressed at midlife.

Besides the personal issues of midlife Baby Boomers come two other major social issues that will intertwine in our next 10-30 years. Be prepared to give serious thought about the actions needed to care for aging parents and, by showing our sons where we made our mistakes, enabling them to begin changing now for the sake of their own midlife.

By guest, Mar 6 2012 04:03AM

One of the greatest changes men could make is to become more like women who are not afraid to meet in small and large groups to openly expose their feelings, both positive and negative. I strongly encourage men of all ages, but especially at midlife, to form men’s midlife groups. We must learn to open up, not fear the workings of our mind or body at this time of our life. For me, midlife would probably have been more rewarding if I had had a better understanding of the changes that were going to occur. These groups could start to talk about issues relative to men’s midlife experiences from all perspectives. Issues such as personal debt, work, retirement, divorce, lifestyle changes, communication, sex, social and economic changes, health care, and taking control are only the tip of the iceberg.

I truly believe that men must learn to be much more open with other men if we are to make our midlife the midway that it should really be. In an article by Micah Toub, Globe and Mail, October 2009, titled “Real Men don’t talk about Feelings”, it is stated that men today still cling to classic notions of masculinity. Clinical psychologist David B. Wexler, in his book “When Good Men Behave Badly”, says that eighty percent of men that come to him are sent by other people in their lives such as spouses.


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I was born a Baby Boomer in 1947! Most of my life I lived as most Baby Boomers have; I had the opportunity to go university, marry, and have two wonderful children; I worked as a Human Resource Director and as an Assistant Director at the Royal Alberta Museum; I had a big house , travelled , and had accumulated large debts. After twenty-nine years of this lifestyle, I decided to retire and divorce. A few years later I remarried a wonderful companion.


Many of the aspects of male midlife became part of my collapse and my transformation into a different person after I took control of the things around me. Taking my personal experiences and applying them to the many midlife aspects I read about, I wanted to share my learning with each of you. Writing this book has been one of the exceptional new experiences in my midlife.


Gallery of Illustrations


“Taking control at midlife makes it a midway”


The gallery is a collection of illustrations from the Male Baby Boomers' Midway book.